According to Simon Sinek, knowing how to ask for HELP (and let me add actually asking for it) is the #1 thing that helps you get out of your own way.
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Ones may struggle to ask for help because they fear being seen as weak or imperfect. They may feel like they should be able to handle things on their own and may worry about being judged if they admit to needing assistance.
They can work on recognizing that asking for help does not make them weak or flawed. They can focus on accepting their imperfections and reminding themselves that everyone needs assistance at times.
Asking for help sounds like "I would appreciate your assistance in this matter, as I want to ensure that everything is done correctly and efficiently."
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Twos can practice setting boundaries and asserting their own needs. They can work on recognizing that asking for help is not a sign of weakness and that it is okay to prioritize their own well-being.
Twos may have a hard time asking for help because they fear being rejected or not needed. They may worry that if they ask for too much, others will see them as demanding or needy, and may be hesitant to risk damaging their relationships.
Asking for help sounds like "I hate to impose, but would it be possible for you to help me out with this? I would be so grateful."
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Threes struggle asking for help because it conflicts with their desire to appear independent and self-sufficient. Embrace vulnerability and authenticity, prioritize genuine relationships, and be willing to ask for help.
Asking for help sounds like "I have a lot on my plate right now and could really use your help. I know you're capable and efficient, so I trust you to get it done well."
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Fours struggle asking for help because they fear being misunderstood or losing their sense of individuality and BEING seen as conforming to societal norms.
In order to receive help, they need to recognize that receiving help does not diminish their uniqueness or individuality. Allow yourself to be open to different perspectives and VALUE the support that others can offer.
Asking for help can sound something like this "I'm feeling really overwhelmed and could use some emotional support right now. Do you have a moment to talk?"
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Fives struggle with asking for help because they have the fear of being overwhelmed or losing control. threatening to their sense of autonomy. Practice being more open and communicative with others, it DOES not make them vulnerable or weak.
asking for help for a five sounds like "I'm struggling to figure out how to approach this problem. Do you have any expertise or insights that could help me?"
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Sixes fear making the wrong decision or being betrayed. They may worry that if they rely on others too much, they will be vulnerable to manipulation or mistreatment. Practice building self-confidence and trusting their own decision-making abilities. asking for help can actually increase their sense of security and stability.
Asking for help sounds like "I'm feeling really unsure about how to proceed in this situation. Can you offer any guidance or advice?"
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Sevens fear being limited or missing out on opportunities. They may worry that if they admit to needing assistance, they will be seen as weak or unable to handle things on their own.
receiving help does not limit the sense of adventure or creativity. focus on valuing the support that others can offer.
Sevens can ask for help by saying something like "This project sounds like so much fun, but I could really use some help to make it happen. Are you interested in collaborating?"
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Eights fear losing their power or being seen as vulnerable. They may worry that if they rely on others, they will be perceived as weak or not in control. Asking for help does not make them weak or vulnerable. They can work on building trust with others and valuing the support that they can provide.
Try asking for help like this, "I need your help to get this done, and I expect you to give it your all. I trust you to come through for me."
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Nines fear conflict or causing discomfort to others. They may worry that if they assert their needs, they will upset others or disrupt the peace. Asking for help does not have to lead to conflict or discomfort. value your own needs and RECOGNIZE that receiving support can enhance your sense of peace and harmony.
Asking for help can be as simple as saying "I don't want to cause any trouble, but I could really use your help with this. Do you have any ideas or suggestions?"
Notice the level of stress and anxiety after you take the step of asking for what you need. Pay attention to how your decisions and direction become more clear as you get out of your own way and begin to move forward toward your goal.
As alway, if you are struggling asking or receiving help and need support, I'm here for you. Take one step in the right direction by setting up a time to chat. I'd be happy to help.
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